Spiritual wisdom tells us that when we resist, we bring about suffering. When we push to control change or block change, we bring suffering into our life. Real contentment is found in the opposite action. Leaning into change, embracing the impermanence of our moments, being an observer of change and activity participating in change will bring us solace.
Kelly McGonigal speaks of change in her CD series Neuroscience of Change. (Kelly McGonigal, 2012) She suggests three ways to handle change.
First, have willingness and courage to go beyond our comfort zone. Engage in what is coming about. Change is here, so go with it and allow expansion in your life, even when it is beyond your box of comfort and sameness.
Second, sink into a sense of surrender as the flow of life is bigger than our own individual perspective. As we know change is happening, engage in change while understanding that we cannot fully control it.
And last, have a quality of self-awareness – both of what you are doing and what your inner experiences are. Pay attention to your motivations, your fears, and your attempts to try to control or resist change.
So with willingness and courage expand beyond your comfort zone. Allowing yourself to surrender “into” the flow of change fully participating while letting go of the need to control how the change will go, and stay aware of your own actions and inner experiences so that you can gently nudge yourself through the moments that you could allow fear to take over.
Without change we will not grow. Use change as the opportunity to catapult yourself from the mundane and step into it. It is the unknown, but if we resist we bring about suffering, often bringing in what we fear most. Instead, realize that change is a constant and allow yourself to embrace it with the excitement of the unknown that you will be lead where you need to be lead.
Works Cited
Kelly McGonigal, P. (2012). The Neuroscience of Change. (Sounds True)
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